My signifcant and other and I are huge fans of all things horror. We love horror movies (mostly the old ones), reading about the paranormal, cemetaries and the Halloween season. Our home is filled with skulls, bones, masks and all other oddities. While we love horror movies, we equally enjoy documentaries. So when a documentary called "SPOOKERS" came on Amazon Prime we were more than a little thrilled to get both of our favorites-- horror and a documentary--rolled into one.
Of course we love fun houses (though my taste for them died out once I hit my twenties, but I appreciate the work that goes into them) and of course- we love haunted houses! You would think I would be excited for a documentary like this. But.....my taste and opinion changed the moment that they said the entire event is held in an old insane asylum. My trigger bell started dinging like there was a fire brewing--and there was. I was so pissed.
The "fun house of horror" is located inside the Kingseat Psychiatric Hospital in Auckland New Zealand. Kingseat Psychiatric Hospital, was built in 1932 and at its peak housed 850 patients. It was so large it even had its own morgue. So whats the issue?
I am all for ghost hunting and being a respectul paranormal investigator, and we all in the paranormal world know, that asylums are great places to start investigating. However, doing an investigation and starting an attraction inside in an aslyum are two different things.
As someone who is psychic and works within a spiritual practice that venerates the dead, I was so offended and felt so terrible for the souls still stuck within the asylum. Believe it or not, these ghosts do not even know they are there. They had no self awareness (and those that did? I can only imagine how it felt!) of what was happening or why. No one asks to be mentally ill. Its sad and horrible. To me the worst part of having an attraction like this within an asylum is the kicking up the dust of the residual energy that is there. Do these ghosts feel they are still trapped in their mind when they attraction is going on? The whole time we watched before we ended it, all I kept saying was "these poor souls." You are the same in death as you are in life. Imagine being trapped, not only in your own mind but in a building -- that you had spent time, maybe died in--and people dressed as crazy sadistic doctors, evil clowns--things you probaply have seen during a hallucination while alive--happening night after night in the living world? There is no peace in this. It made me sad and it made me angry. And frankly it made me feel that these people who are a making profit for having the additional scare of a spook show in an asylum without respect or honor for the former patients and the dead--deserve whatever comes there way spiritually.
Alas, we come to a topic that is both controversial and feared. Hexing, crossing and cursing. Many years ago, when I first started walking the magickal path, I, like most, delved into WICCA. Of course, the lead idea in WICCA is “harm none do as ye will,” or as it says in the WICCAN Rede “Ever mind the rule of three, What ye send out comes back to thee.” The three fold law, much like the idea of the “Golden Rule,” is the idea that what you send out you get back. In WICCA’s case-three times. It’s essentially breaks down to “karma.”
Now, before I go on, I am not saying anything negative towards WICCA. WICCA serves many pagans and has done so for a very long time. However, for me, WICCA was a stepping stone into spiritual exploration, that ultimately, landed me where I am now within in Voodoo practice.
The idea of the Rule of Three was a concept I held to, but as I continued to grow and explore other avenues within the occult, I realized, at least for me, it was not a practical rule. I have never been a big fan of “turn the other cheek,” and certainly not the idea that you should just sit there and let karma “do its work” while you are being trampled on, treated poorly or being disrespected. So, as I started grow beyond the ideology of WICCA so did I grow into a thinking of “I can’t just sit by and wait.”
“Zehara aren’t you worried about all the terrible things that will happen if you do that?”
No, quite frankly. Why? It’s simple. To me a curse or a hex is giving that person their karma right then and not waiting around. Sometimes it can take a while before the hex or curse kicks in, but it does eventually. And while I don’t usually talk about it, hex and cursing are one of my stronger suits when it comes to spell work. If you feel that hexing and cursing are bad—and you feel guilty doing it—then don’t. If you are scared the “three fold law” is going to get you—then you shouldn’t meddle in hexing to begin with.
Like all spell work, hexing and cursing needs to have the same energy and effort given to any other magickal workings. You need to firm, visualize and work the spell. If you don’t “feel” it—like any other work—the hex or curse will not come into fruition. When I do this work, it’s usually when I am super pissed off at the person—and continue to be. It takes A LOT to really get under my skin where I feel that I need to do this kind of work, so if I send out the bad juju it’s because that person or persons deserved it. Cursing and hexing shouldn’t be used for mundane irritants. If someone cut you off in traffic or was just nasty to you in a line-that is not a cause for a hex or curse. I am talking about the kinds of things are that are unforgivable. You need to have a legitimate reason for why you are doing this type of work. I will tell you, the spirits don’t give a damn about a hex for someone who just cut you in line. They know better—and you should to!
So, what’s the difference between a curse and hex?
Everyone has their own definition of the terms.
For me, a hex is something that is carried out in a discreet way—putting a special powder in the door step so when the person walks over it, ill intent will be carried out. A curse is something that is more ritualized, a calling up certain spirits or Deities to send ill or bad luck to the person. There are other ways of sending out that bad juju to someone: bindings, crossings, jinxes.
What works best? Like all magick, it depends on your preference. Some people are ok with a candle, a picture and a few words of ill intention. Others like more contact by putting powders near the person so they will walk through it or burying and hiding objects in their home without their knowledge and then kick starting them when the time is right. You can use dolls via sympathetic magick by filling it with hair or nail clippings from the intended. Everyone has their own ways of doing things. I am more of a ritual person. Candles, incantations and the calling upon spirits and energies to assist or do the work for me. I have had some fantastic results and some curses are waiting for the kick start. I am also a big fan of hiding cursed items in the persons house hold or outside their residence.
So, if you feel like cursing and hexing are not a good thing—don’t do it! If you have a reason (a real reason) and feel in your heart that someone deserves their retribution a bit quicker-start delving into curses and hexes!!
I am often asked how one can communicate with spirits without using the Ouija Board. As stated in my last blog post, I am really against the use of spirit boards to contact spirits.
So, what are safe ways to not only respect the dead, but also to communicate? First, let me state that spirits should NEVER be contacted for FUN. Its disrespectful and ultimately, it can come and bite you on the ass if you don't watch out. I never take my work with the dead slightly.
1. Ancestor Altars: These can be placed in a special area of your home. It can be filled with photos of loved ones who have crossed. You can add their favorite things to the altar: drinks, cigarettes, flowers or even a favorite perfume. This is a place where you come to ask for guidance and advice from those who have crossed to the other side. It should be warm and welcoming and make you feel comfortable.
2. Automatic Writing: This is something that takes skill, but you can learn over time. I started doing automatic writing at a young age, mostly because I was experiencing spirit contact and didn't know any other way to communicate. Often when I do this type of work, my left arm will get very heavy and numb, and that is when I know that a spirit was nearby who needed to get me a message. Automatic writing is easy. Just relax in a comfortable chair and have a notebook and pen handy. When you get a "feeling" that someone is trying to reach you, pick up the pen, close your eyes and let your hand do all the writing. Your mind should be empty so as not to influence what comes onto the paper. After you are done, you can thank the spirit* and see what message was written. If names and dates were left, its always good to go investigate. If the message makes no sense, just hang on to it. It may later!
*If at any time you feel the spirit is being malicious or just "won't let go" - remember YOU ARE IN CHARGE. Tell the spirit you are done and to leave.
3. Pendulum: Again an easy way to communicate and one that I use a lot. Holding a pendulum spin it in a circle and say "YES" out loud. The spin in forward and back and say "NO" out loud. This helps the spirits know which direction to turn the pendulum when you are seeking guidance. Ask you question and see how the pendulum moves!
Remember, never just ask "is someone there"-- if someone is "there" and they want to communicate, they will let you know. You never want to invite in unwelcome guests!
Also, as someone who has worked with the dead for a very long time, I must remind you that you do not interrupt the dead just when you NEED something. Its like having a friend who only wants to hang out with you when they need money. It works for the same in spirit. Do not go to your ancestor altar only in times of need. Do not start using your pendulum when you only need advice relating to a certain problem. Working with the dead is the same as working with the living. There is a set line of rules and respect that must be passed along both ways. If you visit a cemetery, always remember to bring an offering- flowers and water are great. If you know the deceased, leave a bottle of their favorite rum next to their stone.
These are just some of the ways you can work with spirit. Of course, nothing beats a good old meditation where thoughts and messages can come through. The same goes with dream work! Spirits often visit us in our dreams because they can tap into the subconscious.
If you want to learn more ways of communicating with and honoring the dead, I highly recommend "The Witches Book of the Dead" by Christian Day. He does a great job of offering different ideas and ways that you can safely communicate and commemorate those who have passed over!
As a teenager, I was in love with the Quija Board (also known as Spirit Boards). I had some really interesting experiences, one of which, much later in my life, I was able to prove by going to the Salem library and Historical Society and combing through hundreds of newspaper articles, documents and family records. However, while I had one or two nice experiences, I also had about four or five bad ones. One was such experience is so bad that I put the board away and have never used it again.
As I my education into the occult grew, so did my understanding of the spirit world. I soon began to be able to communicate with them using other means- including opening myself up psychically. Today, not only am I able to hear and see spirits, but when I am open, I become a beacon for those souls still wandering. Sometimes, I do need to tell them to leave me alone as I do not always want to deal with them. I am living, they are not.
Quija boards, when they were first created, were meant to be a "toy" and were marketed as such. The issue here, is they are not a toy. They are means of spirit communication--and sometimes what gets brought in is not always what you want.
I absolutely hate when I hear someone say "We did a seance last night with the Quija board." DONT DO THAT. "Well we cast a circle."
Ahhhh. So here is the issue. Casting a circle, whether using an athame or a circle of salt means shit. You may think you are "safe" but here is the problem with Quija boards.
Typically, low level entities or energies communicate using low level means- aka the Quija. You may *think* what is entering your circle is some spirit from the 1800's looking for guidance--when in fact, its a low level energy form ready to lie and cheat you and then eventually, attach itself to you. I am not saying, especially since I do not believe in the Devil, that this is Satan-but, the movie "The Excorcist" made a good point to make that "Captain Howdy" who was contacting little Linda Blair, made her think he was a good spirit.
The other issue, is that typically the user of the Quija has no idea what they are doing and the very first question they ask is, "Is someone there?" or "Is anyone there?"
BAD BAD BAD.
Would you walk outside in a busy area and say "does anyone want to come in?" No you wouldnt. Why? Because you have no idea WHO is going to take you up on that offer.
Unless you have a specific spirit that you want to communicate with-dont use the Quija. Do not open up yourself upto energies that are taking advantage of a low level tool-whether you are in a circle or not.
I have been belly dancing for over 10 years. In the course of the 10+ years, I was always taught - by every single one of my teachers - about proper belly dance etiquette. Unfortunately, I am noticing a trend that both angers me and makes sad at the same time.